Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Ingat orang tersayang

Assalammualaikum :]


Hai, saya Joyah. Tahun ni umur saya 18 tahun. Bulan 3 ni,  keputusan SPM keluar. Saya nervous. Saya takut kalau saya tak dapat masuk U, nanti apa pulak saya nak jadi lagipun cita-cita saya ni potpetpotpetpotpetpotpet.


STOP.

Kita asyik fikir pasal diri kita je. Pasal umur kita yg dah  makin meningkat, 'aku makin tuaaa huahh'. Terutamanya remaja atau golongan belia lah term yg lebih afdhal patut aku gunakan yg memang giat merancang. 


Kalau budak sekolah pulak. Bila tahun baru masuk, fikiran dorang mungkin:


"Yeah aku dah form 5! Cepat lah habis sekolah ni, aku dah bosan siapkan kerja sekolah yg berlambak. Masuk U an senang."

"Wah tak sangka aku dah form 5. Aku takut ah nak spm ni. Cepat-cepat la habis. Lepas spm ni aku ingat aku nak kerja, tolong mak ayah. Pastu .. enjoy sikit-sikit"

*A'ah, memang aku fokuskan untuk budak form 5 je muehehe.

Sedang kita leka dengan hal peribadi kita yg semakin meningkat dewasa, yg sibuk merancang masa depan itu dan ini, jangan kita lupa yg sebenarnya parents kita pun makin DEWASA dan MAKIN TUA. Memang perlu kita fikirkan pasal hal kita tapi jangan sampai kita lupa dan lalai untuk ambil tahu pasal parents. Sihat ke dia, sakit ke dia. Kita ambil tahu. And dah semestinya apa yg dituliskan ni is note to myself too. Kita tak tau siapa pergi tinggalkan kita dulu. Mungkin kita yg pergi dulu ke? Maut tak kenal umur kan. Kita kena prepare and get ready untuk semua tu sebelum menyesal.


Memang tak lah aku nak huraikan yg selebihnya sebab aku pun dalam proses meningkat dewasa yg baru nak mengenal dunia && mula kumpul pengalaman dan pengajaran. Umur setahun jagung macam aku tak cukup atau memang belum layak pun untuk cerita pasal kehidupan yg sememangnya penuh dengan dugaan & ada juga kegembiraan sebabnya pengalaman belum banyak. Apa-apa pun, kita semua dalam proses pembelajaran dan mengenal hidup ni. 


"Umur bukan tandanya kita matang, tapi pengalaman yg membuatkan kita matang dan kuat untuk tempuh kehidupan."




Cuba recall balik, kita pernah jadi macam ni tak.


- Bila birthday kawan-kawan, or birthday bf/gf kita ingat tiap-tiap hari. Kadang-kadang siap plan nak buat surprise party bagai. Siap tulis dekat calendar untuk peringatan takut tak ingat. Tak cukup reminder dekat calendar, dekat phone. Ye lah, kalau tak ingat birthday dorang, nanti merajuk. Mula fikir kita ni lupa kawan apa semua. Pastu berebut nak wish birthday awal dulu - tepat pukul 12:00AM. Memang suka habis lah dapat jadi 1st wisher kononnya. Aku pun macam ni jugak. Tapi apalah sangat birthday kawan kalau nak dibandingkan dengan birthday mak ayah kita sendiri yg lebih berkait rapat dengan kita. In fact, berkongsi darah yg sama. YES, DARAH DAGING SENDIRI. Kita lupa. Birthday parents kita pun, kita tak se-excited macam tu. Kita lupa, birthday parents kita pun kita tak bagi hadiah. Sedar tak? Kadang-kadang hati & perasaan parents kita, kita tak jaga. Entah makan hati ke mak ayah kita bila kita lupa nak wish mereka. Atau pun, kita tahu hari tu birthday parents, tapi kita malu nak wish. Bukan tak boleh untuk kita sambut birthday kawan-kawan kita. Siapa cakap tak boleh, mai sini ceq nak katok kepala hang. Tapi biar berpada-pada dan tak melebihi dari orang yg lebih penting dalam hidup kita. Kawan pun penting, tapi perasaan & hati ibu bapa lagi penting dan patut dijaga. Kalau masa kecik kita selalu dapat hadiah dari mak/ayah, sekarang ni kita pulak lah bagi. Pahala lagi besar kalau kita gembirakan hati mak ayah an :)


Benda ni nampak macam tak penting. Tapi bagi aku, time birthday ni lah kita boleh gather ramai-ramai dengan family untuk buat satu majlis keluarga. Lagi-lagi kalau kita ni bukan jenis lekat dekat rumah. Atau pun, duduk jauh dengan parents. Ha bila lagi dapat gather macam ni. 
Tu antara salah satu situasi yg kita lupa nak ambil perhatian. Kalau nak diikutkan sebenarnya banyak lagi. Tengok je la drama melayu, banyak situasi dorang lakonkan pasal anak lupa mak bapak ni.  


Self reminder: 
Kalau parents suruh kita buat itu buat ini, kita buat je. Taat pada mereka. 
Kalau parents kata jangan buat itu & ini, kita ikut, jangan bantah selagi tak langgar hukum syarak. Mesti ada hikmah dan sebab tersendiri kenapa mereka tak bagi. 
Kalau parents bagi itu & ini yg kita tak suka, terima je. Mungkin nanti masa akan datang, sesuatu 'itu' & 'ini' tu berguna untuk kita. InshaAllah. 


Sebab pada akhirnya, kita akan terfikir untuk seketika, 
"Kenapalah aku tak ikut cakap mak ayah aku dari dulu, kalau ikut mesti takkan jadi camni. Menyesalnya aku". Menyesal tak sudah lah bila nasi dah jadi bubur. 


So lebih baik jadi macam ni, 
"Alhamdulillah, nasib baik aku ikut apa yg mak ayah aku cakap. Berkat aku patuh cakap dorang, aku dapat capai cita-cita aku. Terima kasih ibu & ayah". Waktu tu baru kita rasa bersyukur dan nikmatnya. Pilihan di tangan kita. Pilih yg baik atau buruk? Biar susah dahulu, jangan susah kemudian.


Ingat orang yg tersayang. Anda mampu mengubahnya 


Ok fine fine. Aku cakap dah macam gaya penulis buku sastera ke macam motivator? Ada bakat tak? Agak-agak boleh lah aku masuk pertandingan menulis cerpen or jadi counselor ke kan. Hehe. Kalau ada yg silap & salah dalam 'perbicaraan' aku ni, harap kasi tunjur ajar?
Sayang ibu abah saya.
P/s
  • Cuba ingat parents awak lahir tahun berapa. Asyik sibuk ingat tahun lahir boipren/girlpren je takde faedah sangat. Self reminder.
  • Nanti bila kita dah duduk jauh dengan parents, jangan biarkan parents yg call kita yg menandakan mereka rindu kita. Tak baik. Sebaiknya kita kena call parents & tanya khabar walau sibuk cemane pun. Self reminder.


Wednesday, February 01, 2012

20 facts about girls

Assalamualaikum :]

Here some facts about girls/women. Big attention to men, guys, boys. You should know this and that if you want to win girl's heart. Hang sibuk mengeluh "perempuan ni complicated pasai pa" tapi nak jugak berchinta chintun. Kalau dah tau perempuan tu susah nak paham, jangan menggedik nak menggatal sana sini. Baik hang dok diam kat rumah AND tak payah add perempuan hotsetap kat pesbuk (facebook). Kan senang?


1. Girls hate liars. Eg: While you're texting her, you said you're just staying at home but when she calls and asks your mother, you're at kedai mamak lepaking with your gang. It's cool isn't it? She has your mom's phone number and you forgot about it. Women just couldn't accept the lies. Once you lie, forever he will hesitate to believe you again.

2. Good at taking pictures. Girls take so much pictures that they know every single good angle that will hide practically any flaw/imperfection. Which is why YOU see many 'hotties' on Facebook. You may be deceived by physical appearance. That's pathetic. See and 'check' her heart first.


3. Impatient. Women are impatient when you keep doing the same mistakes. Well .. who can stand it?

4. Act like a lawyer. They're just want to fight for a justice hehe. 

5. Immature. Sometimes girls act like a kid and she's kind of an attention seeker, but just with her beloved ones. For an example; being childish with her mom when asking for a thing that she really wants, but not all girls are like that. Fitrah perempuan.
6. Waiting for your text even if she's get angry and had a fight with you. She's still checking her phone just in case if you texted her.

7.  She would talk/text to you late at night if she likes/loves you. If a girl loves you, she would answer your call even if she's sleeping at that time because she does not want you to get angry, maybe. This means she cares for you a lot. Except for a special case; if she's really mad at you, probably she won't pick up a call.

 8. She would answer it wrongly. Sometimes it's "yes" when a girls says "no", and vice versa. Ask her if you want to know more. Another example: when she says "i'm fine". The truth is not sometimes.


9. Cry. Girls only cry for someone he loves. And because of some other things. If she let her tears run down to her cheek just for you, or in front of you, or in a phone call, it's a good sign that you mean a lot to her. So don't break her heart! Cry: it doesn't mean at all that she is weak. Fitrah perempuan.

10. Girls like guys with a plan. Girls don't want to get attached to a guy who has no basic plan in life. Even if it's "I failed in exams but I want to further my studies in college, working hard and saving my money"-guy.  That shows a huge deal of humility and responsibility.

11. Hate to be ignored. Eg: girls don't like to be ignored in text for a long period of time unless you give a good reason, but don't lie. 

12. Girl likes a 'sweet' guy. Girls would feel herself special and think you're sweet IF you sincere and really take care of her when she's sick. *zoom in if you can't read the words on that picture. Credit to Encik Mimpi

13. Does better reseacrh. Yes, 100% true. Women would do anything just to know what is his beloved ones doing. They have the ability to find things out. Sometimes they're like NINJA!! Never lie to girls even if it would hurt her heart. Girls can accept the fact because they were born to be strong.

14. Always want to win. She would sulk sometimes. *mengade-ngade

15. Angry. A woman who truly loves you will be angry at you for so many things, but will stick around.




16. Important fact that you may not know is: Girls think it is very sweet when seeing a man who's willing to let himself cry. It is exteremely sexy and manly. Especially if it involves someone he loves. So guys, do not ever shy or afraid to cry in front of someone you love.


17. If girl's family know about you, If a girl shows you to her family OR her mom/family know about you, that means she really loves you. But if you DON'T LIKE HER, just tell her the truth before it's getting worse. Tak percaya? Pergi tanya kawan perempuan anda.



18. She's ready to be with you when she loves you, care for you, accept you for who you are and your silly behaviour even if you're not charming or handsome, or even you're not in her list of her dream guy. It means she's ready and want to grow old with you.

Dare enough to say "I want to spend my life with you"?

19. (SO TRUE.) Inspite all that, they are forgiving, loving, caring and faithful. Once they choose you, It would always be you.

20. Where's the 20th fact? Haha. Sorry. You know. And you will know. Different girls, different facts. Some might say those facts are fiction. Do research. 

credit to Encik Mimpi 

"Jangan buat wanita itu jatuh cinta kalau anda tak cintakan dia" -Ustaz Azhar Idrus.


P/s:   
  • Girls will melt if you sing a love song for them hahaha.
  • Women speaks in a different language. So it helps to research, research and RESEARCH. It's important to educate yourself.
  • Fikir berjuta-juta kali sebelum anda ingin menyentuh hati perempuan.
  • Idea datang dari diri sendiri, ada dua/tiga info je dari google.